<br>Female engineer husband and son throwing the pursuit of love<br> <br>Unexpectedly office romance a year break<br> <br>Five years ago she was cast for an office romance at her husband and son, but pay a heavy price for a new romance lasted only a year. Later restart the two romances also hurry to rush to her ex-husband profoundly guilty and also finally understand that he is having an affair maker, it is also a victim of an affair. & Nbsp; & nbsp; letter<br> <br>My emotions when mature?<br> <br>Zhang Wei:<br> <br>I am 38 years old,tn reuqin pas cher, engineer, divorced for five years, had thrown choose to divorce her husband and son have a big reason in me, I think my husband loves me enough attention, you and a colleague had an office romance, then both choose to go to divorce together, we should say I was a state is a new love gives me the feeling of importance that is carried away by admiration. Husband a shock, depressed for a long period of time, but he was injured when heavy still very friendly to me until the divorce is not disclosed to relatives derailed me things, but that personality clashes. So I told him feel guilty, deep guilt can not be cut until now. And new romance colleagues maintained year after breaking up, break up because I found a huge gap between the ideal with the reality I can not accept, but to give up, but he also can not meet the needs of my heart, this feeling eventually dismal, after me 3 years are afraid to get involved in the emotional life.<br> <br>Until last year, I slowly start a new romance, has a relationship with the two-term boyfriend, who in the eyes of others are very good man, but I always have no way to contact them in depth,http://bbs.gogo315.com/home.php?mod=space&uid=948681, such as an encounter two differences,http://store.shopping.yahoo.co.jp/menscasual/n-tops-47-menscasual.html, there are contradictions My first thought was to escape and give up. I'm confused, I do not know where is the problem? My friends think I am emotionally mature enough, I also want to have a stable emotional and family, what I should do to run some mature feelings?<br> <br>Lu Xiaoli<br> <br> analysis<br> <br>Perhaps subconsciously, she put her ex-husband as the father<br> <br>15 at noon,http://store.shopping.yahoo.co.jp/toy-time/nin-153.html, and I Lu Xiaoli Jiaochangkou proud in a cafe to meet the world. She looks smaller than the actual age, ball head against the background of a pair of big eyes black and shiny, if she did not say, look at her innocent appearance, hard to believe she was a 15-year-old child's mother,nike air max 90, even harder to believe that she is his 11 years of marriage affair maker.<br> <br>Dad then have derailed<br> <br>Lu Xiaoli fondly recalls how her ex-husband met, fell in love to marry and have children, she said her ex-husband grew up with relatives grew up introverted, but a strong sense of family responsibility. I asked, feeling yourself in that marriage, how? She sighed, too bland, dull let me feel they have been ignored, I always want to ask him a lot of love and attention, he does not give me, I can not find the value and meaning of their own existence, while the unit male colleagues The mad pursuit just to fill my lonely moment. However, the real and male colleagues together,http://www.wanzhanjianshe.com/news/html/?41835.html, I discovered that he can not equally satisfy my inner needs.<br> <br>Lu Xiaoli said to her husband in marriage want to be a lot of love and attention, not heart felt very empty; mad pursuit of their male colleagues can only fill the same moment of lonely hearts can not meet demand. In fact, in recounting her heart that barren black hole, that is deep and strong love and attention, and even insatiable desire and expectations. This love of hunger due to the lack of general childhood love. I would like to ask her memories of childhood experiences, she brings it to her father for several years as a child derailment, mom humiliation for the preservation of marriage.<br> <br>She says it is her 10 years ago, a widowed father and a good female colleagues on this is no secret in the unit. I asked Mary still remember the feelings? She sobbed always remember, too disgrace. Mom hated aunt. I nodded, and asked her feelings about her mother, she said that on the one hand very distressed mother, on the other hand is not worth her mother. I asked the status of Mary and her parents, and now she and her parents' feelings? She said her mother is very strong, 10 years ago had cancer, experienced a painful treatment, now recovered, much of his life to take care of Mom and Dad are inclusive father, now old, my father seemed to finally wake up and start to take care of her mother. I am very close to my mother, for my father is still very cold. But I still try to take care of them, in their eyes I was a dutiful daughter behaved.<br> <br>Admission father forgive yourself<br> <br>I ask Mary to close your eyes and try to back through time and space to make their own childhood sense of shame,air max 90 pas cher, in the heart of parents say their most want to say. When Mary was pale again opened his eyes, some aggrieved and somewhat angrily asked: Zhang teacher, I hated so betrayed marriage to the mother and father brought me great pain, but it happens why I'm going to follow him to betray marriage? I sighed, you do not have to forgive my father made the mistake, which became a knot your heart, you always want to ask a lot of ex love and attention, perhaps subconsciously you put him as a father, you want him to come to make up for the past instead of the father of you owe. He can not do it,http://bbs.tt919.com/read.php?tid-293888.html/read.php?tid-293888.html/post.php?fid=116?fid=116, you go to express their dissatisfaction with their own way is the most hated father wrong way, anger and even revenge. Mary bite the bullet and say that's it, I actually became his most hated most hated kind of person. I shook my head and said, Do not be so harsh yourself, you're just not out of lack of love of the shame caused by the year, you want a lot of love and attention, we are expecting others to satisfy their cravings. However, the origin of your desire childhood trauma, in addition to self-heal others simply can not meet.<br> <br>Mary stared ask how I want to heal themselves? I say the first step is addressing the negative impacts of their past experiences, admission to forgive my father,http://notreleben.com/spip.php?article7, admitted to forgive yourself, no matter how painful past experiences should be accepted, people just totally accepted their past, have freedom of choice of direction in life. This is the only way to spiritual growth. Your second step is to create a new health status and goals, so that heart full of love, full of strength. When your body from the inside exudes love and strength, to build a better intimacy with others it is a natural thing.<br> <br>Mary said she and her ex-husband mutual friends are hoping that they can rebuild a composite happiness,http://www.haircare-style.jp, I again remind her friends just want friends, composite key is whether or not she and her husband have this will and are willing to The pay earnest efforts. Whether or not complexed with her ex-husband, feeling responsible for their own must learn, which is a prerequisite to happiness.<br> <br> dialogue<br> <br>Affair hurt much higher expectations<br> <br>Zhang : What is the impact of divorce on you son?<br> <br>Lu Xiaoli: Fortunately, we have never attacked each other in front of his son, ex-husband,louboutin pas cher, his son said I was brave to pursue the life you want it and they separate, in the hearts of his son, I'm a cool mom.<br> <br>Zhang Wei: Your ex-husband is very broad-minded respect.<br> <br>Lu Xiaoli: Yes, in order to ease my guilt and guilt, he always said I have derailed his responsibility, if he was not put all the energy on the job,piumini moncler, maybe I would not have been out of temptation carried away.<br> <br>Zhang : Objectively speaking, the affair does not only reason for marital problems are so simple, it tends to reinforce each other and marital problems. It must be admitted,http://kehuelga.net/diario/spip.php?article3675, even if there have been various problems of marriage, an affair is definitely not a solution to the problem, it only makes things worse. Of marriage itself, it is a very irresponsible act affair, an affair of the damage caused by the parties is much higher than had been expected.<br> <br>Lu Xiaoli: I have deeply felt this a little.<br> <br>& Nbsp;<br> <br>& Nbsp;<br> (Edit: SN053)<br>
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