Let It Go When you Have No Control
I think a lot of life is spent figuring out what we are in control of, and what we have no control over. Will we be able to crawl over and grab that toy out of the dog's mouth? Presuming this is a kind hearted and baby oriented dog. If the dog doesn't separate his teeth, no matter how much we tug, we have no control over that situation. We can sit there and cry, or we can move on and play with something else.
Life will never be void of situations that leave us with no control. At least, not without consequences. I guess we need to decide whether the consequences are great enough to try to change what is out of our control. Right now, the trees are shedding their leaves, and no matter how much some of us love summer, we have no control over the seasons or the weather. We can, however, be prepared for it.
We can control how warm we'll be when we go outside. We can have our down jackets and earmuffs and hats and boots and scarves. Even though we can't control those cold temperatures, we can make the best of them. UGG Classic Short Clearance Did you ever have a favorite CD that you just couldn't get enough of? Then, one day, as you are listening to your favorite song, it starts to skip. No control can't fix it.
Sometimes, we just can't save something from doing what we don't want it to do. We set the iron down on a piece of clothing, and it scorches it. No control nothing can be done. We stare at amazement at our favorite blouse or trousers, and they'll never be worn again. Acceptance is key to keeping our blood pressure down. We can look at it as a good reason to buy a new outfit, if we can.
Taxes go up on everything from property taxes to cigarette, alcohol, gas, and food. Our money is not going as far these days. We can be angry, but that doesn't do anything to help. It's really out of our control. If we stopped buying all these things, the prices would undoubtedly come down, but it would take every family to do so. Having no control over every family, acceptance is the only real thing we can do.
Girls cut their bangs by themselves for all time. There are, however, those times the scissors just don't cut where we thought they should. Crooked bangs. No control. Gel them back, cut them all short, or accept and wait until they grow back. The loss of control in one area, may strengthen you in another area. You might have been shy, but having to walk around with zigzag bangs, made you feel strong and powerful. This came from simply letting go and stepping outside your norm.
When someone has cancer, and they know their hair is going to fall out, more and more, they are shaving it before they have to go through watching it come out. Now that's really letting go, knowing you had no control over your hair falling out. And yet, it took courage and strength to allow the world to see that your hair doesn't define who you are.
When the electricity goes out, and you're right in the middle of an article, and dinner UGG Bailey Button Triplet 1873 Chocolate Boots is on the stove, and a cake is in the oven, and your favorite show is coming on, no control, acceptance is the only key. When your computer goes down, and you haven't had time to back it up, and you lose everything, just accept it.
Sounds easy, but I've been there a few times, and I know that nothing I can do is going to get back all my work I've collected. I can calmly sit back and resign myself, or I can go into a frenzy, which isn't going to help, by the way. I did learn the lesson Women UGG Boots Clearance of backing up all my work, however.
Once in a while, my dog gets loose. Once he's gone, I have no control where he goes, or when he'll be back. Again, I accept what's happening, and I wait for the result. Luckily, within an hour, he's usually back from saying hi to his buddies. When a deer runs right out in front of us, we have no control.
We just have to hope that we'll be okay, and the car won't be too damaged. When things are out of our control, worrying and getting mad aren't going to change a thing. However, acceptance and the knowledge that things happen for a reason can help us lead a calmer, more peaceful existence. It takes practice, but it can be done.
Susan Thom is the mother of three children, two sons, 23 and 27, and a daughter 29. Her older son was in the air UGGS Clearance Sale Outlet force in Germany, and her daughter is in the army in Germany for her second tour of 3 years, and possible deployment. Her youngest son is on his own and gainfully employed, and sorely missed, as they all are.
Writing calms her, and gives her a place to go by herself! Clears the head and gets it out. She lives in a rural area, with a lake and mountains, and her partner, and has loved writing since she was a child.
She has been on a journey of self discovery for over twenty years, and has learned many things about the human mind, and how to maintain some resemblance of calm and peace within.
If someone reads one of her stories, and relates to her feelings, and gets a suggestion on how she dealt with them in a positive way, that would be the ultimate gift of her writing.